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You have to get to know me first

October 16, 2026

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The first thing my new AI assistant did was offer to start solving things for me.

I activated Nectar, my AI assistant, last Thursday. She gave me some options for what she could do, and none of it had happened yet.

"There's no trust yet."

So I told her, "No, you have to get to know me first." She wasn't allowed to solution or fix anything until I'd given the go-ahead. That rule came out of the summarize step on our trust ladder.

Before AI acts, let it show you what it understands.

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Where this came from

The Trust Ladder: From Summarize to Act — AI Readiness, Part 2

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The next step

That's the moment. Here is how you make it yours.

Build something realTake what you learned and build something concrete. valuefirstagent.com is where your build becomes a working agent.valuefirstagent.com(opens in a new tab)

And then, the rest of the path:

  1. Join the conversationainativehumans.org(opens in a new tab)
  2. Practice with peersvaluefirstcollective.com(opens in a new tab)
  3. Teach the next personthe Academy